Wow, it is hard to believe that today is January 16, 2021 and only seems like a short time ago, when the bubbies were just little, and enjoying their time with Poppy Paco at the museum in Wilmington, NC. He loved spending time with the bubbies, when they would come to visit. These are the types of memories that keep me grounded and moving forward with the new way of life, as I go thru all the memories books, and photos, and see what we did together as a family, and these memories, help me to move on.
It is not easy to move on, but your brain knows you need to, the most difficult piece is getting the heart to understand the same process of moving on. Getting the heart to understand it is ok to feel the loss as each day passes. Once the heart accept this you find yourself in a different state of mind, and processing wow, this is real. And you begin to realize you are moving on and surviving the loss.
It truly is amazing how many do not understand the grief process which includes but is not limited to the following: moments of silence, and how that silence can bring you to a place of wonderment and joy at the same time. Everyone grieves and suffers in silence differently and will find his/her own time to accept the new and let go of the old, and fully understand they have survived and are moving on. They find in time never forgetting what was, what is and what will be. Sitting here today, makes me happy and sad at the same time. Sadness in the sense I do have him to enjoy this beautiful day with me physically, albeit he is with me spiritually today and always, and this will always make me feel happy, and blessed for the love we shared and the life we had built together.
AT the same time, I know it is time to move on, and enjoy life a little differently than before. BUT you all know 20 years together to one 1 year alone is very different to accept. These stories I write help me to heal, and help me to remember the loss of my love. However; at the same time to help me rejoice in my new beginnings as Paco is with me daily.
What are some of the challenges you face daily, and how do you cope, and survive the life changes that have happened to you over the course of the day, month and/or year?
Life is always going to change, and the best way to overcome life obstacles, is to:
accept the change,
process the change,
and make a decision this change is not going to slow you down or stop you from progressing forward to the new change/challenge placed in front of you.
I believe in all my readers, and the strength each of you process to accept the change/challenge and move forward to the best person you can be during this time. I am here for you if and when you feel like talking, or crying and just being.
Godspeed to all!