Christmas Countdown December 9, 2021






















Hello my fellow readers! Bet you thought I forgot today's post! LOL! Hardly.....just wanted to wait a little bit longer today......haha! This picture was taken for my very first family outing since my fateful day.......was in July of this year. WOW....how time flies and things change in that short amount of time. I have been 2 a few more family outings....since then...and they were ok.....still hard to see happy families and faces...together...but at the same time....we must also learn to move on, and move past....the what if"s, the might be's, the oh boy here we go again scenarios......as with anything in life...change does occur...whether we want it to or not. On the flipside of that coin is how WE adapt to the change. This is for life in general....not just facing loss....How do you cope with life changing events....marriage, singlehood, family....new baby, new grandbabies....and such....or adopting a new animal into the family.....our pets do become our children....we love and nurture them.....


My 2 this morning...slept later than usual....and one beside me on the bed, the other at my feet, taking up my space.....it's harder and harder to find space in the bed for me....with these 2, LOL...but I am not sure...how I would feel without them.....Papa Bear (Kitty), adopted Paco and me about 10 years, ago...his owner left him outside to wonder and he came to our house....and never left....he moved with us from ILM to Durham, Raleigh, and back to ILM.....he was so lost when we lost Poppy too. He was in a state of depression for three weeks....he still is not the same...but he is getting better.....he loves to sit with me on the desk and do head butts....when, I am trying to work.....LOL.....Midnight Ryder came to us in June of last year....and she was my saving grace....of helping to stay busy. Chasing after a newborn...kitten....and wanting to snuggle and play.....and now she is a year old....and still tries to snuggle under my chin...so funny...she is a little fatty....and we had to put her on diet...well....let's just say.....that is hard....LOL.....


What are some of your ways of coping with change? What do you incorporate into your daily life to help you get over the hurdle of being away from your loved ones, or losing a loved one, or change in status of marriage, love, and life? Coping skills are developed at an early age, and sometimes....they are not best skills learned...and we have to learn how to change them to adapt to the new changes we face. All is good....if you are learning to use new coping skills....and finding peace with you...that is the best measure.....remember WE should never DEPEND on someone else to MAKE us happy.....cause one YOU are happy with YOU...then happiness will follow you....and each new relationship, life changing event will be easier to handle if YOU ARE HAPPY with YOU! Life lessons.....are the hardest....but the best medicine for healing....


As for....did my workout this morning.....and completed some other tasks.....and I am learning to find my own way and happiness...and one day....hopefully will find a new love...and be able to share this happiness...but...that is for another rainy/gloomy day. LOL.....But for now.....love is a distant memory.....when Poppy died....and I am open to sharing again....but...as with all good things...we must wait for the right moment....Just sayin! That is all......


I do hope you all find peace, joy, comfort and love this holiday season....and you are able to share this with someone WHO you love....!!! Love is magical just as Christmas Magic is magical....and my Christmas Magic has been lost...to help me find this magic is thru my writing....it allows me to find healing and hope......so thank you all my readers and fans!!


till next time-

cher-


PS. Papa Bear just woke up and you will never guess where is sitting right now! YEP you are right! LOL.

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